Why Do Some People Cry During EMDR?

Short Answer: Some people cry during EMDR, and it is generally considered a normal response when it happens. Many people never cry at all. Neither response means anything is wrong.

Key Takeaways

• Some people cry during EMDR, while many others do not.
• Crying can be a normal response, but it isn't required for a meaningful session.
• Not crying doesn't mean the session was less effective.

What This Looks Like

Crying during EMDR can range from a few tears to a stronger wave of emotion, depending on the memory and how it feels to you in that moment. Some people notice it happens while focusing on a particular memory or emotion. Others don't cry during a session at all, even when working through something meaningful.

Why It Happens

EMDR involves focusing on a memory while your brain works through it. Researchers don't have a complete explanation for why some people cry during EMDR and others don't. It may simply be one of the ways some people respond while focusing on emotional memories.

Does Crying Mean Something Went Right or Wrong?

Neither, on its own. Crying isn't a required sign that a session is working, and not crying doesn't mean it isn't. Some people have a meaningful session without any tears, while others cry and feel the same sense of relief afterward. It's simply one of several ways people respond.

What to Do If You Cry During a Session

You don't need to do anything special. A few things that can help:

• Let yourself pause and take a moment if you need to.
• Keep tissues nearby if that helps you feel prepared.
• Continue when you feel ready, or stop for the day if you'd rather.

If crying ever feels overwhelming rather than like a release, it's a reasonable time to pause the session and come back to it another day.

Conclusion

Some people cry during EMDR, while many others do not. Both responses can be completely normal, and neither tells you whether a session was more or less effective.